It might not sound like much, but I know those precious minutes are going to be the best thing for me.
Last week, I started on this journey by downloading some lovely meditations created especially for mums and reconnecting with myself for just a few minutes before the craziness of school pick up and activities.
I was amazed how I felt afterwards. My children greeted a calm and centred mum who was ready to listen to their stories and enjoy the rest of the day with them. I couldn’t believe the difference as some days I am just so tired by the afternoon – being 36 weeks pregnant during summer certainly doesn’t help that situation!
On the weekend, I was ever so tired after making dinner and cleaning up. I told my girls I just needed 10 minutes, so I sat down, popped in my ear phones and listened to another meditation. I felt re-focused and so much better afterwards, ready to tackle the evening ahead.
Some days I feel that everyone wants – and gets – a little piece of me, everyone except me.
I spend time with my girls, talk with them about their days, help them with their homework, ferry them to and from after school activities. I keep the house clean and tidy, wash our family’s clothes, make dinner. I try to ensure my husband and I have some time to ourselves to nurture our relationship. In a few short weeks we’ll be adding another little girl to our family so in the back of my mind I know my time will be spread even thinner.
Don’t get me wrong, I love every minute I spend with my family. The decision I made over six months ago to leave my work to focus on my family has been the best decision I ever made. I feel ever so lucky to be in this position. So sometimes having these thoughts actually makes me feel a little selfish and guilty.
Yes, I have my blog to keep my writing and creativity flowing – I totally love it and am grateful for this opportunity. But still the question comes up in my mind – what do I do to nurture and truly connect with me?
So for just 10 minutes a day I’m going to give myself that time. It might not seem like much but it’s the opportunity to embrace a few moments of today, reconnect and give myself the attention I deserve.
Whether it be through a short guided meditation and relaxation; sitting down and enjoying a cup of tea or coffee without interruption; a short sequence of yoga poses; soaking my feet in the foot spa and enjoying the warmth and relief; going for a short walk around the block and taking in the fresh air and sunshine; reading a book and noticing the turn of each page; writing in my gratitude journal; even just moisturising my hands or body and savouring the touch and breathing in the fragrance.
Some time to enjoy the simple things. No rushing. No over-thinking. Just being.
In time, I hope to increase this time by heading back to my hatha yoga class, enjoying some more exercise, reading, writing, or whatever it may be.
But for now it’s 10 minutes a day. Just for me.
What do you do just for you?