10 minutes for me

10 minutes for me - Ever-changing Life of a MumTen minutes a day. That’s what I have decided to give to myself.

It might not sound like much, but I know those precious minutes are going to be the best thing for me.

Last week, I started on this journey by downloading some lovely meditations created especially for mums and reconnecting with myself for just a few minutes before the craziness of school pick up and activities.

I was amazed how I felt afterwards. My children greeted a calm and centred mum who was ready to listen to their stories and enjoy the rest of the day with them. I couldn’t believe the difference as some days I am just so tired by the afternoon – being 36 weeks pregnant during summer certainly doesn’t help that situation!

On the weekend, I was ever so tired after making dinner and cleaning up. I told my girls I just needed 10 minutes, so I sat down, popped in my ear phones and listened to another meditation. I felt re-focused and so much better afterwards, ready to tackle the evening ahead.

Some days I feel that everyone wants – and gets – a little piece of me, everyone except me.

I spend time with my girls, talk with them about their days, help them with their homework, ferry them to and from after school activities. I keep the house clean and tidy, wash our family’s  clothes, make dinner. I try to ensure my husband and I have some time to ourselves to nurture our relationship. In a few short weeks we’ll be adding another little girl to our family so in the back of my mind  I know my time will be spread even thinner.

Don’t get me wrong, I love every minute I spend with my family. The decision I made over six months ago to leave my work to focus on my family has been the best decision I ever made. I feel ever so lucky to be in this position. So sometimes having these thoughts actually makes me feel a little selfish and guilty.

Yes, I have my blog to keep my writing and creativity flowing – I totally love it and am grateful for this opportunity. But still the question comes up in my mind – what do I do to nurture and truly connect with me?

So for just 10 minutes a day I’m going to give myself that time. It might not seem like much but it’s the opportunity to embrace a few moments of today, reconnect and give myself the attention I deserve.

Whether it be through a short guided meditation and relaxation; sitting down and enjoying a cup of tea or coffee without interruption; a short sequence of yoga poses; soaking my feet in the foot spa and enjoying the warmth and relief; going for a short walk around the block and taking in the fresh air and sunshine; reading a book and noticing the turn of each page; writing in my gratitude journal; even just moisturising my hands or body and savouring the touch and breathing in the  fragrance.

Some time to enjoy the simple things. No rushing. No over-thinking. Just being.

In time, I hope to increase this time by heading back to my hatha yoga class, enjoying some more exercise, reading, writing, or whatever it may be.

But for now it’s 10 minutes a day. Just for me.

What do you do just for you?

48 thoughts on “10 minutes for me

  1. Such a lovely idea . I’m often rushing at the last minute, flustered by the time we walk in the door – and creating unnecessary stress for us all.
    I should like to try something – yoga is on my list for March too.
    (Ps Not long to go now)

  2. I do a lot just for me but my kids are now 10 and 11. I think when they were small I frabbed time to read most days but that was it. I urge every parent to take daily time for themselves whether it is 10 minutes or a big block of time, it all helps. Your meditation time sounds perfect..

    Big hugs for the summer end of pregnancy. My second was born during a horrible heat wave in sydney 10 years ago xx

    • Thanks Deb. At the moment, I’m finding it easier to give myself a small amounts of time, it’s amazing how even just a few minutes can change my perspective on things. I’m so glad autumn is here! A lot of people say I’m lucky that we didn’t have a terribly hot summer, but it was certainly hot enough for me! This finally month of pregnancy seems to going very slowly though.

  3. It is so important to give to yourself. For me its a bit of exercise. Sometimes I feel guilty about it … I guess I make up excuses to feel guilty eg.I drive to the gym so its a cost, or it eats up time with hubby, or I feel guilty cause I feel so good afterwards? …. But we all need that time for ourselves. We’re always there for everyone, else except ourselves. We end up feeling crap, resentment, lost, depressed etc. if we’re not healthy or well, the rest of the family won’t be either. Keep at it Erika and hopefully your 10 minutes will increase to 30, then 60 🙂

  4. Eek. I am the wrong person to comment here. I don’t know if I have 10 minutes a day! Or maybe I do, I just use it to spend more energy on other things rather than just on centering myself. I absolutely love the idea of it though! Sometimes I think I should get up half an hour earlier than everyone here, just to enjoy the silence and a slow cup of coffee. Maybe I should look for my ten minutes there….

    • I used to feel exactly the same way Laney, but somehow I have been managing to find just a few short minutes for myself … even if it means heading to the bathroom to rub scented moisturiser over my legs … although I’m having trouble reaching them now at this point in my pregnancy ha! 😉 Getting up earlier could definitely be an option for you if you’re a morning person. It’s not always a perfect 10 minutes of relaxation, but at this point I’m finding it’s better than nothing and a good first step to finding some more time for myself. Hope you can too!

  5. Awesome idea. This is so important to do. As you say, it doesn’t have to be a big thing or take a long time. It’s amazing what 10 minutes out can do. You poor thing being so pregnant in this heat. I hope the remaining weeks go quickly for you. #teamIBOT

  6. I am up to about 2 hours of blissful lounge sitting, tv watching, blog reading time!!
    I have not quite literally had even 5 minutes by myself in over a week and today I decided I would have a whole nap time of it!! I am 100% refreshed and feeling a whole lot better about life now!!
    Enjoy your 10 minutes and good luck for the coming few weeks!!

  7. yep, my only me time is after bub has gone to bed, washings done, dinner is made and cleaned up from… etc… then I get time to blog. Maybe one day I’ll be able to take so more time to do something actually just for me 🙂

  8. How lovely to encourage this with your readers too. 10 minutes can be all you need to recharge and stay calm. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day grind. Thank you for the reminder. 🙂

  9. I think it’s incredibly important to carve out time every day for yourself. I love to exercise so this is something I like to work into the day if I can, or reading a book at night. #aussieparentingbloggers

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