Five weeks ago, I wrote this post just before giving birth to my third baby girl.
I never got a chance to post it as labour started, so here it is. It’s quite interesting for me to read back on the many, many thoughts and feelings that were going through my head just days before giving birth.
By early next month my family will no longer be a family of four but a family of five.
Welcoming a new little one into our family is exciting, but at the same time it is a quite daunting. I have some many hopes and fears running through my head at the moment and sometimes it feels quite paralysing.
I worry that my other two girls will need to take a step back or feel that they are missing out on some one-on-one time, particularly in the early newborn stages as this mum gets the hang of having three children.
Finding that time is certainly going to be trickier, but I hope that as we fall into a routine we will find our way. I am going to try my best to make sure that each of my girls still knows they are fully loved and supported, but at the same time our family is evolving and we are all going to need to adapt in some way.
For some strange reason, I have been thinking how I’ll miss no longer having a hand for each child to hold when we are out and about. There is always going to be one who needs to hold on to another sibling’s hand. Maybe that will foster some good sisterly relationships! At the same time, I don’t want my eldest, Miss 9, to be one of those kids who feels like she needs to take on the role of a ‘mini-mother’ (while I’m sure she’ll enjoy it) just because I need a hand with the baby. She is a child herself and still needs to enjoy this time as one.
Unfortunately, we continue to battle sleep issues with my school-age girls, so throwing a newborn’s sleep cycle into the mix is going to be extremely hard work. I live in hope that maybe, just maybe, this will improve.
However, the school-age part does provide a positive as I will get to spend some lovely time with baby, providing me with a chance to find a routine and maybe even catch a daytime nap if I need it (I’m hopeful!). On the other hand, baby’s routine is going to suffer as I will need to get out the door for school drop offs, pick ups, after school activities and the like regardless of baby’s schedule.
These final weeks of pregnancy are going by so slowly and while I’m looking forward to the end, I’m also cherishing the time I currently have to myself. While I am looking forward to feeling a little more like, well, ‘me’ again and not having to share this body with another little human (sorry baby), at the same time I can’t wait to meet my gorgeous little girl!
Bring on the champagne, ham, meat lovers pizza, sleeping on my back again and rolling over in bed with ease. Goodbye heartburn, aches, pains, sore restless legs and the 20kg of weight I have added to my body.
But most of all I can’t wait to see the joy on my girls’ faces when they meet their baby sister for the very first time and get to give her a cuddle. Those moments are priceless and worth every hope and fear that tosses around in my mind each day.
UPDATE: Reading back on my thoughts, I am pleased to say that we are all settling in well as a family of five.
Miss 5 and Miss 9 are totally besotted with their little sister, and argue constantly about who is able to hold her next … although they won’t extend that love to changing a nappy!
Amazingly, their sleep issues have improved dramatically since bringing home their baby sister from hospital – something I am so grateful for!
I’m enjoying the time I get to spend with baby while my other girls are at school, and love seeing the joy they get in greeting their baby sister at the end of a school day. They really do miss her so much!
While pregnancy is an amazing time, and results in one of the greatest miracles of all, I’m glad it is now over. This pregnancy has taken its toll and I know that I could not put my body through that again. I’m done and my family is now complete!
Do you have three children? How did you find the shift from having two to three children?
How did you know when your family was complete?