A letter to my 10-year-old daughter

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To my darling daughter,

Ten years ago we welcomed you into the world, and our world became a better place for it. You were born with a head full of red hair and a bright personality to match, always seeming to know what you wanted from the world and having a way of making sure it found you.

As my first born, I stumbled along not really knowing if I was doing this parenting thing quite right, but you were loved and thriving so I knew I must be doing something right and I kept on heading in that direction.

As cliché as it sounds, the past 10 years have gone by amazingly quickly. I guess I’m feeling it even more this year as you enter double digits. I look at your newborn sister and realise just how much you have grown and the beautiful young lady you have become.

You have your whole life ahead of you and I have so many dreams and wishes for you. The world is yours for the taking and I want you to grab hold and never let go. I want you to live your life, follow your dreams and never give up. But more importantly, I want you to be true to yourself. Live the life you want to lead, love the things you want to love and do the things you want to do. You only get this one life and if it’s what you truly want to do, know that I will always be there for you and support you all the way.

To get there, I encourage you to ‘do your best’, but please don’t confuse that with having to ‘be the best’ because although the words are very similar there lies a great divide between them. Just keep believing in yourself and you’ll always head in the right direction.

But the journey isn’t always going to be easy. Life can be rough and the world can be a cruel place at times but it’s the way we bounce back from these things that make all the difference. The power of positivity is so important. You know I’ve always been a ‘glass half full type of person’ and gosh I hope I have passed some of this thinking on to you. You need to learn to rise above the bad times, the nasty words and the vicious ways of others. Yes, awful things can happen in life but it’s important not to catastrophise these things. The world needs happy, powerful, positive thinkers like you so we can all move onwards and upwards.

Always remember to treat others the way you want to be treated and don’t be ashamed to ask for help. It takes a bigger person to reach out to someone when you need their love and support. And there are times when you just need to swallow your pride and not be afraid to say you’re sorry.

It’s important to know who your true friends are. Some friends will be there for life, but others are only meant to stay for a short while and support us through a particular period of time. It’s OK to let go sometimes in order for us to move on. It’s quality, not quantity that counts.

I hope along the way you gather some great memories. It’s not the material things in life that matter, but the people and the time you spend with them that count the most. You won’t look back and care what kind of car I drove, but you will remember the songs we sang and stories we told along the trip. You won’t remember what brand of clothes I bought for you, but you will smile as you recall the private conversations we shared while shopping for them.

So my gorgeous girl, I wish you the happiest 10th birthday. Remember that you have my love and support forever. I will always be there on the sidelines, cheering your successes, hugging away any tears, guiding you along the way and watching you shine, like I know you will.

With all my love,

Mummy xx


20 thoughts on “A letter to my 10-year-old daughter

  1. Erika, this is such a beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing it here. Your daughter sounds amazing and I’m sure she’ll delight in this letter today (and in years to come). Great post! (*stopping by with IBOT)

  2. Such a beautiful and heartfelt letter Erika! I’m sure it’s something Miss 10 will cherish for years to come.

  3. So, so, so gorgeous!! I love the part about true friends – we tie ourself in knots as teenagers trying to be liked by everyone, only to realise years later that it’s only your true friends who really matter in the long term.

  4. So lovely, Erika. Your daughter will treasure this and your sage advice will always be there for her. And it’s so true: do your best but it doesn’t mean you have to be the best.

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