Trust Your Melody: book review, interview + giveaway

Trust Your Melody book review - Ever-changing Life of a MumGuilt, self-doubt, comparisons, confusion, overwhelm. If there’s one sure fire thing that parenting stirs up, it’s all of these emotions and often at the same time!

When I was given the opportunity to review Lana Mayes’ book Trust Your Melody, something inside of me knew it was a book I needed to read.

At the time, having not long ago had my third baby girl, I was still adjusting to our new family life and as I turned the pages of this book, I was quick to connect to Lana’s story of self-discovery through parenthood.

Lana wrote the book as a form of personal therapy but as it started to take shape she felt the need to share her parenting experiences with others, particularly in relation to the additional challenges she faced with her children including clubfoot and severe reflux.

I can totally relate to the rollercoaster of emotions that Lana describes in her book. My own eldest daughter suffered from reflux as a baby, although to nowhere the extent of Lana’s children, but it definitely affected her sleep patterns when she was younger.

I often had tears in my eyes as I read this book as it brought up a lot of emotion from deep within me. In particular, I feel Lana’s idea that many mums wear a “Mummy Mask” is such a perfect way to explain the way that women often try to give the impression that they are happy and coping for fear of being judged or appearing to fail as a mother.

Lana is a remarkably strong woman and a fabulous mother who has trusted her instincts to be there and speak up on behalf of her children. I think all mums will be able to relate to this book regardless of whether they have experienced clubfoot, reflux or not as we each have our own battles and the emotions are not dissimilar.

Lana is truly an inspiration. Despite the challenges she has faced, she has made the choice to come through them with a positive, honest outlook on life, something that is definitely not easy to do.

Lana Mayes Trust Your Melody - Ever-changing Life of a Mum

Lana Mayes (photo supplied)

After reading this book, I had the opportunity to interview Lana about her book and parenting journey. Her responses are just as inspiring as the book and I hope one day I’m able to meet Lana in person.

What motivated you to write your book?

Originally my motivation to write came purely from my own need for personal therapy. I was re-living the things I had struggled with since becoming a Mum over and over again in my head, which in turn felt like it was keeping me ‘stuck’ and unable to enjoy our family, or even life in general. I hoped that by writing it all down I would feel more free to move forward; and it worked! Writing is a process I continue to use now that Trust Your Melody has been published – the more often I write, the more clarity I have. Once the book started taking shape, my motivation quickly evolved into a much deeper desire to reach out and connect in a very real way with other parents.

What do you hope mums take away from reading your book?

That each of our parenting experiences are unique, yet the emotions we feel are often similar. I hope other parents who have or do feel overwhelmed in any way are able to use our families experience as a metaphor for their own stories, and know that they too have it within them to come through any darker days. I hope they feel less alone, and more part of a community of parents. I hope it helps them recognise, or re-find, their own strengths, village and trust in themselves. I hope they become more comfortable and confident in following their own style of parenting.

Your book raises the notion that mums often feel the need to wear a ‘Mummy Mask’ in order to hide from the challenges they may be facing or guilt they may be feeling. Why do you feel women do this and how did you break through your own perceptions of mothering?

For me personally, when I really get down to the core of it I wore my ‘Mummy Mask’ because of  fear. I was scared of feeling judged for not coping or for not doing the ‘right’ thing to support our children, I was scared of failing at this almighty job of mothering, and I was scared that I would push people away if I was perceived as ‘whinging’ or ‘moaning’. There seems to be such a lot of pressure to show society ‘I’ve got this, I can handle it’. Breaking down my own mask is, at times, still a work in progress, but I have noticed that the more I continue to be honest about how I’m coping and what I’m feeling, the easier it is to move through the tougher times. Ultimately, I think it takes practise and a willingness to be vulnerable, but the rewards are huge.

Finally, if you could give a new mum just one piece of advice what would it be?

Not to get too caught up in finding the ‘right’ way to parent – you probably know infinitely more than you are giving yourself credit for, and you are always free to re-calibrate tomorrow if things need changing up.

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To celebrate the launch of Lana’s book Trust Your Melody in e-book format, one lucky reader has the chance to win their very own copy (in their choice of either a hard copy or e-book).

To enter, simply answer this question: If you could go back and give yourself as a new mum one piece of advice what would it be?


The winner is SARAHMARY – an email has been sent in order to claim your prize.

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 * This is not a sponsored post, however I was gifted a hard copy of the book ‘Trust Your Melody’ (value $30) for the purpose of this review. All opinions expressed are my own.

13 thoughts on “Trust Your Melody: book review, interview + giveaway

  1. Hahhaha, yes, my mummy mask screams “fuck off with your judgemental bullshit”. This book sounds wonderful – anything that lifts women up and supports them during some of the toughest times of their lives will always get the thumbs up from me. Kudos to the author for bringing something positive to the table.

  2. Gosh it sounds like I need to read this book! Totally agree with the Mummy Mask! The advice….this is s tough one as there is plenty floating around but think the best one would be look after yourself. It is so easy to get caught up in looking after everyone else but making time even 5 mins a day works wonders for the soul

  3. That absolutely every emotion, every overreaction and worry that you feel is normal and you’re doing just fine so please stress less. It’s not always easy to talk about how you’re truly feeling but it’s so important, and it’ll make you feel like a weights been lifted off your chest. And mostly, take a second to just have gratitude for what you have.

  4. My children are now 19, 17 and almost 12 years of age with my eldest a girl and her younger siblings both boys. My advice for mums with younger children is to be consistent and do the hard yards, because when you look at the wonderful adults you have created and moulded you know you have achieved something amazing and you will always be glad you made all that effort!

  5. Goodness, to condense it down to one thing, i would say would be ‘dont doubt yourself’, mums are amazing, if you think somethings not right, have conviction in own awesome natural instincts to investigate,follow up or change cos seriously, youll be right nearly all of the time 🙂

  6. My best piece of advice would be (something I didn’t do but am now slowly relearning) is don’t lose yourself.
    Like in any relationship it is healthy to keep doing some of the things that make you YOU. You need to remember to nurture your soul so that you have the energy to nurture theirs.
    For a long long time I said and actioned the phrase ‘my children and husband come first, they’re my absolute priority’…until I hit the wall, exhausted, empty, lonely. I had focused so strongly on them I had completely forgotten about my needs and in the end the very thing I wished to do (have them all bouncing and happy, fed, loved, played with etc) was the things that I just felt I was failing at so badly – but why? I mean…I put them first…always…even when I was beyond tired, hungry, needing a break, missing my old self, forgetting who I was outside my motherhood role…I put them first..
    and I needed to schedule me in somewhere so that I COULD be the Mum I wanted to be.
    Because while I was falling apart, they suffered.
    So by trying to put them first always I had done them and myself a disservice. Now I nurture me too, first or at least equal to, because if I’m full of rest, healthy food, fun and life…so are they.

    So I challenge the put the kids first idea and offer up the thought that perhaps, maybe, us Mums are a fairly vital part of the systems so…be right up there on your own list of people to look after.

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