I absolutely adore my kids, but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy some time to myself. Sometimes all I need is a meagre 10 minutes to feel like a whole new woman again.
I’m sure many of you may be reading this expecting a bunch of mindful mummy moments and important life messages about spending time with my kids, but this post is more about learning to accept where I currently am in my life and enjoying the time – albeit short – that I do get for myself.
Deep down I know it’s not going to be like this forever, so I’m learning to roll with it. It certainly makes any amount of ‘me time’ extra special and can turn a rather mundane and everyday moment into something just that little bit more.
Here are a few mummy, and usually kid-free, moments I have started to truly cherish lately.
So for the past few days I feel as though my head has been spinning.
There has been so much going on. I really dislike using the word ‘busy’ as I feel it is thrown around far too easily in conversation these days, so instead I’ll describe life as ‘chaotic’, what with getting the girls back to school and settling into new timetables for after school activities.
Plus, I’m making sure I’m there for my mum and helping her sort through the paper trail following the passing of my father a few weeks ago.
Add in the discovery that Miss 10 needs to begin her orthodontic treatment earlier than I expected – starting with the extraction one of her baby tooth next week (!!) – on top of our usual specialist appointments, and my calendar is starting to seriously overflow.
Initially, it came as a relief to be so ‘busy’ (ok, ok I had to use it this time). Having three kids and family life was a welcome distraction. It sent me into autopilot mode and allowed me to avoid some deeper, more upsetting feelings about my father’s death. But right now I just feel like throwing my hands up and saying enough is enough. I need some time to process.
As a parent, loving, protecting and teaching my children everything they need to know so they grow up to be happy, confident individuals is one of – if not the – most important roles in my life.
But after having three children I’m amazed at how much I have learned, and continue to learn, from them.
I am especially recognising this since having my third baby just four months ago. I have taken the time and made a conscious decision to really slow down and enjoy this period of time because, as cliché as it sounds, it really does go by ever so fast.
Children really help put life into perspective. It’s funny how someone so small can teach you so much.
Here are a few things I have learned from my three children.