Lately I have been suffering from a little bit of mummy guilt.
Mainly it’s about whether I am doing enough for Miss 2’s socialisation.
I never worried about this with my older girls. When I worked they attended day care at least a few days a week. Add on the swimming, dancing or kinder gym lessons and our week was full and their interaction with other children well and truly met.
Miss 2 on the other hand is being raised in a very different situation. I no longer work so she is at home with me every day of the week. She adores her older sisters and learns a great deal from them (both the good and the bad), but I worry that she doesn’t spend enough time with children her own age. When she sees someone her own size she seems so fascinated by them.
She won’t start sessional kinder until 2019 … even though she turns 3 in March which is before the enrolment cut off and could start next year, I’ve weighed up and pro and cons and decided to wait until the following year.
I know her spending time at home with me offers so many great benefits – for both of us – and I feel so grateful to be able to spend so much time with my little girl, however I often wonder if she needs to spend more time with children her own age.
Hello mummy guilt.
I absolutely adore my kids, but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy some time to myself. Sometimes all I need is a meagre 10 minutes to feel like a whole new woman again.
I’m sure many of you may be reading this expecting a bunch of mindful mummy moments and important life messages about spending time with my kids, but this post is more about learning to accept where I currently am in my life and enjoying the time – albeit short – that I do get for myself.
Deep down I know it’s not going to be like this forever, so I’m learning to roll with it. It certainly makes any amount of ‘me time’ extra special and can turn a rather mundane and everyday moment into something just that little bit more.
Here are a few mummy, and usually kid-free, moments I have started to truly cherish lately.
Today I have written a few words for all the mums out there who may feel a little unappreciated at times. Being a mum is the most important job in the world, but it can also be one of the hardest. Sometimes the thank yous are not spoken often enough, but it’s important to remember that they are always there, we may just need to look a little harder to find them. Sometimes it feels as though the little things that mums do each day go by unnoticed, but this is certainly not the case. Never doubt yourself and always remember that in each and every way you are a mum, you are enough.
Mum, please know that you are enough.
It’s in the early morning starts to make sure their day goes right even though yours may not.
It’s in the loads and loads of clothes you wash, dry, fold and put away each day.
It’s in the breakfast, lunch, dinners and snacks you make without fail even when you really wish someone else would step in occasionally and take over for you.
It’s in the countless nappies you change every day to keep your baby clean and fresh.
It’s in the toys, books and games you pick up off the family room floor only for them to return an hour later.
It’s in the cakes you bake together and don’t even mind if they make a mess.