Lately I have been suffering from a little bit of mummy guilt.
Mainly it’s about whether I am doing enough for Miss 2’s socialisation.
I never worried about this with my older girls. When I worked they attended day care at least a few days a week. Add on the swimming, dancing or kinder gym lessons and our week was full and their interaction with other children well and truly met.
Miss 2 on the other hand is being raised in a very different situation. I no longer work so she is at home with me every day of the week. She adores her older sisters and learns a great deal from them (both the good and the bad), but I worry that she doesn’t spend enough time with children her own age. When she sees someone her own size she seems so fascinated by them.
She won’t start sessional kinder until 2019 … even though she turns 3 in March which is before the enrolment cut off and could start next year, I’ve weighed up and pro and cons and decided to wait until the following year.
I know her spending time at home with me offers so many great benefits – for both of us – and I feel so grateful to be able to spend so much time with my little girl, however I often wonder if she needs to spend more time with children her own age.
Hello mummy guilt.
Today I have written a few words for all the mums out there who may feel a little unappreciated at times. Being a mum is the most important job in the world, but it can also be one of the hardest. Sometimes the thank yous are not spoken often enough, but it’s important to remember that they are always there, we may just need to look a little harder to find them. Sometimes it feels as though the little things that mums do each day go by unnoticed, but this is certainly not the case. Never doubt yourself and always remember that in each and every way you are a mum, you are enough.
Mum, please know that you are enough.
It’s in the early morning starts to make sure their day goes right even though yours may not.
It’s in the loads and loads of clothes you wash, dry, fold and put away each day.
It’s in the breakfast, lunch, dinners and snacks you make without fail even when you really wish someone else would step in occasionally and take over for you.
It’s in the countless nappies you change every day to keep your baby clean and fresh.
It’s in the toys, books and games you pick up off the family room floor only for them to return an hour later.
It’s in the cakes you bake together and don’t even mind if they make a mess.
Guilt, self-doubt, comparisons, confusion, overwhelm. If there’s one sure fire thing that parenting stirs up, it’s all of these emotions and often at the same time!
When I was given the opportunity to review Lana Mayes’ book Trust Your Melody, something inside of me knew it was a book I needed to read.
At the time, having not long ago had my third baby girl, I was still adjusting to our new family life and as I turned the pages of this book, I was quick to connect to Lana’s story of self-discovery through parenthood.
Lana wrote the book as a form of personal therapy but as it started to take shape she felt the need to share her parenting experiences with others, particularly in relation to the additional challenges she faced with her children including clubfoot and severe reflux.